Once you have completed all or the majority of your breast cancer treatment, you may find you face entirely new sets of emotions. Increased fear of cancer returning, concern that you are no longer having your cancer monitored as often, feeling let down, feeling isolated and not being understood, and many other emotions you did not expect at this time.
What you are feeling is a very common and little discussed emotion following the treatment of your breast cancer. Once you received your diagnosis, you were thrown into an environment of crisis mode focusing on your disease, going to many doctors, talking with healthcare providers, being supported and cradled by family and friends, and being reassured that everyone was doing everything to remove/kill the cancer. Suddenly, it is all over and you have the sense that the healthcare community says, “You are fine. See you in several months.” To suddenly be cut off from the people who have been so reassuring to you may feel as if you’re being pushed out the door precipitously.
There are some ways to help with your emotions. First, feel comfortable in checking in with your family doctor or oncologist’s office with these concerns. Second, establish a survivorship care plan with them so you understand their focus. This plan gives both sides a step by step approach to follow up care. For more information, go to the Living Beyond Breast Cancer Website. There is more information on survivorship plans and the emotional issues during different phases of the breast cancer journey.
Third, when communicating with close family and friends, be clear and honest about what you are feeling, what you need, and understand that this may change daily. For those not as close who say, “Aren’t you excited to have it all over?” You might try, “Well, I’m surprised at the side effects that remain, such as fatigue. It will take a bit longer to recover than I expected.” Be aware that others may not totally understand the emotional aspect of what you have or are going through. Your feelings are common but, none the less, uncomfortable and frightening.
Women often find counseling and support groups very helpful in moving on once breast cancer treatment is completed. Feel free to call TurningPoint for further information on our counseling services.